How I Met My Fiancé/フィアンセと恋に落ちるまで


Kids, I’m going to tell you the story of how I met my fiancé. Just kidding, I won’t take 9 seasons to tell this story, just one post.


I figured I should talk about how I met my fiancé. Just over 2 years ago, my fiancé arrived in the US to study English at my university. Our mutual (Japanese) friend introduced us just a couple of days after he arrived, because I could speak both Japanese and English and she thought I would be a good English conversation partner for him.


It was pretty much love at first sight. (For both of us, as he later told me).


 He was handsome with amazing eyes, a cool fashion sense, great hair and he spoke basically zero English. The first couple of times we met he wouldn’t look me in the eyes, and instead he looked at our mutual friend even when he was answering my questions. He told me it was because he wasn’t used to looking at blue eyes and it was strange. After those first couple of times he could look me in the eye, but I was already pretty intrigued.


Our “English conversation” meetings were always in Japanese because it was just easier to communicate. (Even now we basically speak only Japanese). I was pretty selfish, because instead of helping him speak English, I just wanted to listen to him talk. We talked about everything, and I found his conversations and opinions fascinating. I was focused on my academic world, but he talked about pop culture, Japanese culture, American culture, and his take on a lot of random topics.


He was polite but friendly when we talked, and of course as we became better friends he got more comfortable. He was shy at first but his friendly nature allowed him to easily make friends in general. Even though his English wasn’t great, his confidence allowed him to talk easily to Americans. Confidence is always attractive!


We both spent a few months in the friend zone, trying to figure out if the other person felt the same way. I kept trying to give him hints, but he later told me he thought that was how American girls normally acted.


Then, he finally confessed to me.


I tried to play it cool, but I was pretty stoked. I told him I guessed we could date and see how it went. Over the next few months, we got closer and our relationship developed further.


At this point I honestly had a lot of fears about the relationship. He was planning to go back to Japan, and I was planning to go into a specific career path in the US (that’s why I’m in grad school). I tried not to get too deep into the relationship, but it was to no avail. I was really attached to him, and I had no idea what to do about it. I stressed about it a lot, and I realized that I couldn’t figure it out alone.


So we talked about it.


Yep, it was that easy. I told him how I felt, and that I was worried he was going to go back to Japan and I’d never see him again. He told me that he didn’t want that to happen. So, we discussed our options, weighed all our options, and then decided that no matter what it took we would be together. Easy, right? Well, not really. It took a long time to work out how to be together, and our plans changed several times. But keeping our goal in mind, plus a lot of compromise, we figured out a way to be together that worked for us.


He was only planning to stay in the US for 6 months, but he ended up staying for over a year and a half. We got engaged before he went back to Japan, and I am finishing up my graduate studies.


So, what did we decide?

I’m going to graduate and then start working in the US, and he will work in Japan until then. So for now, it’s a long-distance relationship for us.



Thank you for reading my story! ここまで読んでくれて、ありがとうございます!



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